People know I am interested in psychology and Of late i feel as if I need to talk about myself.?

I would ideally prefer to be the listener and I do not want to be asking too many questions. What happens is I start talking about myself in an effort to avoid the impression of any psychologial tact being used such as active listening. I would prefer to say little and this generally works with friends that I have grew up with. Problem is extended family who because they know my interests are a bit more sensitive to me. I don't want to come accross as all knowing either by saying nothing or by saying everything. I purposely try to talk about my life when I don't want to just because I don't want anyone to have the impression that they are being analysed or played with.